Two months on T

It has been some time.  We had some major money issues, we got married (yay!), and since I handle everything that both of those things entail, I was quite busy, very stressed (lost SEVEN pounds the week before the wedding) and blogging went waaay to the side.

I get all anxious when I think about trying to re-cap the many things missed.  Kaden has been blogging regularly, see his blog to fill in the gaps!

http://kadencharming.blogspot.com

His voice is deep and cracking.  He gets a little sick right before it drops again.  His testosterone pattern is something crazy.

I give him his shots on Tuesdays.  We call it Testosterone Tuesday!  Wednesdays he eats a LOT, Thursdays he gets really extra horny, and still eats a lot.  Then there is a mild regular combination of the two until Sunday.  Sunday he gets cranky.  Monday he is downright irritable and moody.  Shot on Tuesday, repeat.   I hope it doesn’t last forever. 

He is growing more hair on his face, and has started shaving more regularly.  I kind of miss his always-soft face, it was a lot nicer to kiss.  But when I tell him he prickles me he obliges by shaving right away, so that is sweet.  He has become more protective of me, a but more grabby – he holds me tighter around the waist and gets angry when other guys look at me too much.

On our honeymoon, I had my first moment of being noticeably glad to be a hetero couple.  We were lost on a bus in Nassau (don’t ask…) and at one time every other person on the bus was male.  If we were two females in that position, I would have been quite concerned.  Since Kaden was presenting and passing as male, I had a socially perceived and accepted protector.  That was very nice.  So much safer to travel with a male.

He is my husband now.   I love that.   Husband.  I call him Hubby-Stud-Muffin.  He grins.  It’s adorable.

His parents didn’t take the news well.  We are dealing.  His Uncle is  a huge help and source of support and I am thankful every day for him and what he is doing to help.

Some people at work and online have started to become vocal about “born a female and you ARE female”.  It’s hurtful.  It’s ignorant.  It’s NOT necessary.  It doesn’t even effect them.  Let people live their lives.  You don’t have to like it, you don’t have to understand it.  That’s okay.

This is one thing that I think we are running into a lot in civil rights battles.  People who don’t understand it, and seem to think that if they don’t understand then it must be inherently bad.  You don’t have to understand it.  It doesn’t matter if you don’t understand it.  It has nothing to do with you.  It is not hurting you or anyone else.  Just let it be.

Love, color, gender, religion.  Everything, just let it be.